Dating your best mates ex onlinedatingjournal wordpress com
I’m sorry, but there’s no way I can hide my unshakable, moral compass on this one – it’s weird and wrong and awful for a number of valid reasons.If you find yourself starting to fancy your mate’s ex, you need to ask yourself whether it’s simply lust cravings for human contact or something more.They’re a really weird, incestuous group of mates, if you ask me.The big alarm bell was when Joey’s girlfriend Kathy cheats on him with Chandler.Not only is that his best friend, but he massively betrayed him.Despite that, the new couple have a short-lived relationship with Joey’s blessing. This kind of thing would NEVER HAPPEN in the real world because, and I don’t condone violence, Joey would’ve beaten him to a pulp and never spoken to the dude again.Yes, you may (as many people tend to) get completely wrapped up in your own feelings and give the middle finger to anyone who tries to tell you otherwise, but if one of your besties decided to start humping your ex, would you be supportive or forgiving?The sheer concept of seeing one of my mates with an ex is something that’d affect me for a number of reasons.
Beaton would advise people who are upset when their exes move on: "Put this person in your past where he belongs, think of what you've learned from the experience, and get busy finding another partner who appreciates you."Your ex did not get an upgrade.For me, the whole ‘follow your heart’ or ‘the heart wants what the heart wants’ cliches should be thrown out the window here.Consider what it would feel like if the roles were reversed.And it doesn’t matter which way round the genders are – it’s an act that does irreversible damage to a friendship.A friend once told me his test of whether he's over an ex is whether it would bother him if they were dating someone else.