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If you make a mistake and wind up contacting your ex – there’s nothing to be done but starting the no contact period over again.
Only time will let the pain of the breakup fade and let him start missing you again.
And when you prove to yourself that you can live your life without him, you instantly become way more attractive to him.
Think about it this way – when you first got together, you weren’t begging him to be with you, and feeling like you were unable to live your life without him.
I like to use this rule: for every month of the relationship, you should be doing a week of no contact – up to a maximum of 8 weeks and with a minimum of 3 weeks.
That means if you were dating for 4 months, your no contact period would last 4 weeks.
, it’s the same as breaking no contact on your own.
There’s no hard and fast rule – it depends on the intensity and the duration of the relationship.
Plus, obsession and neediness are huge turn offs – and if your ex can sense that from you after the no contact period, it will undo all your hard work.
Only you know when natural grieving goes on for too long and turns into obsession and wallowing in pain.
But if you add toxins to your body like alcohol and drugs, you’re not processing and releasing the toxic pain of the breakup – you’re pushing it even deeper down inside yourself.
And when you do that, you’re not really getting over him.